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Hey tribe!
This week, we’re pulling back the layers to uncover what lies beneath and behind all the “doing” and “having.”
Spoiler: It’s you. The real you.
But not the version chasing tasks or collecting trophies—the version that simply is. The version that can just exist.
Let’s explore how having < doing < being and why most people are stuck on step 1 and step 2, never realizing the freedom of step 3.
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Best Finds from the Week:
📝 Article: “The Art of Being, Not Doing”: Most of us mistake busyness for worth. Shifting to presence creates room for true joy.
Practical Tip: Dedicate 30 minutes weekly to a "micro-Sabbath." Do something purely restorative—sit outside, read, or simply rest.
🎥 Video: “The Untethered Soul by Michael A. Singer | Animated Summary”: Inner peace comes from managing your inner voice and embracing impermanence. These shifts transform daily life.
Practical Tip: Observe your thoughts without judgment. Practice presence and focus on what truly matters today.
🎥 Video: “The Authentic Self Psychology | Dr.K Explains” : Living authentically aligns you with purpose, fueling fulfillment even in hard moments. Truthfulness and acceptance are essential.
Practical Tip: Ask yourself daily, “Am I living aligned with my values?” Take one small action to close the gap.
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Deep Dive - 3 Ideas & Tips…
1️⃣ Big Idea #1: Who Are You Without the Doing?
Most of us live on autopilot—work, relationships, routines. But here’s the thing: your value isn’t tied to what you do.
Neuroscience confirms this; your brain’s “default mode network” (where creativity and self-awareness live) thrives when you rest, not when you’re doing.
1️⃣ Little Idea #1: Rest isn’t laziness, it’s clarity. When you pause, you see yourself more clearly, free from distractions.
1️⃣ Practical Tip #1: Schedule “being time” today. Literally block 15 minutes to do nothing. No scrolling, no “productive resting.” Just you.
2️⃣ Big Idea #2: The Trap of Having
Here’s the cycle: we do more to have more. But research shows material possessions and external achievements provide only short-term dopamine hits.
Long-term fulfillment? That comes from knowing who you are.
2️⃣ Little Idea #2: Stop equating success with accumulation. Shift your focus from “What do I want to have?” to “Who do I want to be?”
2️⃣ Practical Tip #2: Write down 3 words that define the person you want to be. Then align one action today with those words.
🕰️ Most people are busy becoming someone they don’t even like—how’s that working out for you?
3️⃣ Big Idea #3: Being Is the Foundation
Being isn’t passive, it’s intentional.
When you center your life on presence, your actions and possessions become extensions of your authenticity, not replacements for it.
3️⃣ Little Idea #3: Everything you do should flow from your being, NOT the other way around.
Neuroscience backs this up. Presence rewires your brain for better decision-making and emotional regulation.
3️⃣ Practical Tip #3: The “Forgiveness Calendar”
Set a daily intention to let go just a little. Start with 30 seconds of deep breathing while repeating, “I choose to release this.” Increase time as it gets easier.
Coffee Chat Questions ☕️
When was the last time you felt truly yourself without needing to prove anything to anyone? What were you doing—or not doing?
If you stripped away all your titles, achievements, and possessions, who would you be at your core?
Do you make decisions based on what aligns with your true self, or are they driven by what you think others expect from you?
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-D (just some person behind Mindflow)
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