Who are you becoming?

It’s Messier Than You Think...

Ever feel like you're stuck between who you were and who you’re trying to become?

Transitions can feel like getting lost in a fog without a GPS.

Here’s the truth though: That fog is exactly where the magic happens.

In this week’s edition, we’re peeling back the layers on what it really means to navigate transitions and uncover who you’re becoming.

It’s messy, complex, and not Insta-perfect—but it's where the real transformation lies.

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 🌱Growth isn’t pretty. It’s you, sitting in your own mess, deciding what to keep and what to burn.

Best Finds from the Week:

  1. 🎥 Youtube Video: “Dr. Jordan Peterson: How to Best Guide Your Life Decisions & Path” (Huberman Lab): We all have competing "personalities" within us—urges, drives, and emotions vying for control. Set a clear aim, reframe challenges as adventures, and practice integration.

  2. 📝 Article: "The Art of Transition: How to Anticipate and Handle Change Well" (Medium): Plan actionable steps, including consistent communication, addressing concerns upfront, and fostering a mindset of intentionality over reactivity.

  3.  📖 Short Read: “We Asked a Psychologist About What Happens in Your Brain When You Change Your Mind” (Vice): Align decisions with your core values. Slow down, gather diverse perspectives, and write down pros and cons to clarify your thinking. Build habits that encourage deliberate choices over impulsive ones.

Deep Dive - 3 Ideas & Tips…

1️⃣ Big Idea #1: Transitions are your brain’s “construction zone.”

Neuroscience reveals that during transitions, your brain enters a state of heightened neuroplasticity. This means it’s more adaptable than usual, creating new pathways for learning and growth.

1️⃣ Little Idea #1: But construction zones are messy for a reason.

Just like a construction site, the work your brain does during transitions isn’t supposed to look neat.

Those moments of doubt, confusion, and frustration? They’re signs your brain is rewiring itself for the new you.

1️⃣ Practical Tip #1: Practice “Name It to Tame It.”

When you feel overwhelmed, identify what emotion you’re experiencing (e.g., “I’m feeling anxious about the unknown”).

Naming your feelings reduces amygdala activation, allowing your rational brain to take charge. AKA less unnecessary loss of control.

2️⃣ Big Idea #2: Transitions aren’t detours—they’re the main event.

We often think of transitions as something to “get through,” but they’re where the real transformation happens.

Research shows that embracing the discomfort of change can lead to increased emotional resilience and problem-solving skills.

2️⃣ Little Idea #2: The process is the point.

When you stop rushing through transitions and start leaning into them, you unlock deeper levels of self-awareness.

The growth doesn’t come after the transition—it happens inside it.

2️⃣ Practical Tip #2: The “Pause & Reflect” Journal Exercise:

At the end of your day, jot down:

  1. One thing that challenged you today.

  2. One thing you learned about yourself because of it.

This simple exercise helps your brain connect the dots and spot growth in real-time. Basically, you’ll be able to navigate it a bit more meaningfully.

3️⃣ Big Idea #3: The person you’re becoming isn’t waiting at the finish line—they’re being built right now.

The identity you’re stepping into doesn’t just “appear” once life settles down.

You’re actively shaping it with every choice, reaction, and habit you cultivate during the transition.

3️⃣ Little Idea #3: Small choices = Big shifts.

Your future self is built in the tiny, often overlooked moments—like how you respond to setbacks or whether you prioritize rest in chaos.

3️⃣ Practical Tip #3: The “1% Better” Rule:

Each day, commit to one small action that aligns with the person you’re becoming. It could be as simple as drinking water before your coffee or sending that one scary email.

Over time, these micro-actions compound into transformation and BOOM you’re a different person in action.

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 🌀You’re not finding yourself. You’re just peeling away the parts you thought people wanted.

Coffee Chat Questions ☕️

  • What’s one small moment or decision during a big life change that shaped who you are today?

  • Who do you feel like you’re becoming right now, and what excites (or scares) you about it?

  • What’s a time you leaned into uncertainty instead of resisting it, and what did you learn?

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🪞 The person you’re afraid to become is probably closer to the truth than the one you’re clinging to.

Becoming isn’t about perfection; it’s about PROCESS. Lean in, even when it feels uncomfortable. That’s where the truth lies.


-D (just some person behind Mindflow)

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